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NON MONOGAMY - sparking DEEPER connections, STEAMY encounters, and UNFORGETTABLE experiences, while keeping it safe & sexy!!!.

Somatic Sex Coaching & Sexological Bodywork

Somatic Sex Education (SSE) is a trauma-informed, client-led approach that bridges the gap between therapy and bodywork. This work is rooted in pleasure-based healing, using neuroplasticity to rewire patterns and deepen your connection to yourself. Through a mix of guided exploration, somatic practices, and (when appropriate) hands-on support, I help you map, reclaim, and expand your experience of pleasure.

I offer in-person sessions in my private Calgary studio and virtual coaching for those outside the area. Some of the experiences we can explore together include:

- Genital & Pelvic Dearmouring (healing from emotional, religious, physical & sexual trauma)
- Pleasure Mapping & Direct Pleasure Awareness
- Orgasm Coaching & Masturbation Support
- Desire & Fantasy Exploration
- Erotic Massage & Touch for Couples
- Non-Monogamy & Open Relationship Coaching
- Empowered Choice, Voice & Boundaries
…and so much more.

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Non-monogamy is about embracing openness, authenticity, and intentional connection in your relationships. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach—each dynamic is uniquely defined by you and your partners, rooted in communication, consent, and mutual respect.

With a strong foundation of self-awareness, trust, and clear agreements, non-monogamy can be a path to deeper intimacy, personal growth, and meaningful, life-changing connections. It’s an opportunity to honor your desires, explore your sacred sexual energy, and build relationships that truly align with who you are.

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Take your pleasure seriously.⁠
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How often do we brush off our desires, settle for meh experiences, or hesitate to ask for what we really want? ⁠
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Maybe you:⁠
👉 Give, give, give… but feel awkward or uncomfortable receiving. ⁠
👉 Crave deeper connection and hotter intimate experiences but aren’t sure how to ask for them. ⁠
👉 Wish your partner would follow your lead without their ego getting in the way. ⁠
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Here’s the thing:⁠
Epic pleasure starts with confidence—the confidence to take up space, ask for what you need, and fully receive it. ⁠
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If this hits close to home, it’s time to join us for the Wheel of Consent Workshop in Calgary this May! ⁠
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In this 2.5-day experience, you’ll: ⁠
✅ Learn to ask for what you want (without feeling guilty or awkward) ⁠
✅ Get crystal clear on giving vs. receiving (and why both matter) ⁠
✅ Discover how to bring more sensuality, connection, and fun to your relationships ⁠
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📅 Dates: May 2-4, 2025 ⁠
📍 Location: Calgary ⁠
🎟️ Registration link in bio or vitist:⁠
https://schoolofselfcare.teachable.com/p/wheel-of-consent-calgary-may2025⁠
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PIC CREDITS: @lvs_hot @sexually_liberted @yourdiagnonsense @askmarciab⁠
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Are you noticing a desire to connect to your sexuality, but something inside you just… won’t let you? One moment, you’re craving intimacy, longing for deeper pleasure. The next, you feel shut down, numb, overwhelmed, or disconnected. ⁠
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THIS IS YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM AT WORK!⁠
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Your body has a window of tolerance—a zone where you feel present, engaged, and open to pleasure. But if your system perceives too much stress, past trauma, or emotional overwhelm, you might move out of that window: ⁠
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🔥 Hyperarousal (fight-or-flight) → Feeling anxious, restless, overstimulated, or pressured around sex. ⁠
❄️ Hypoarousal (shutdown) → Feeling numb, checked out, or distant from your body and desire. ⁠
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And here’s the thing: you can’t force yourself into eroticism if your nervous system isn’t on board. No amount of “just relax” or “try harder” will work if your body isn’t feeling safe. ⁠
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This is why the work I do as a somatic sex coach is so powerful. LITERALLY THIS IS A FOUNDATIONAL PIECE I BRING INTO WORK WITH EVERY CLIENT!!!⁠
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Your sexuality isn’t just in your head—it’s in your body. Through nervous system tending, embodiment practices, and pleasure-based healing, you can expand your window of tolerance—meaning: ⁠
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✨ More capacity to experience pleasure, intimacy, and sensation. ⁠
✨ Less stress and overwhelm around sex, connection, and desire. ⁠
✨ A deeper ability to feel and express your eroticism on your terms. ⁠
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Your pleasure is not something to force—it’s something to reconnect to. And it all starts with tuning into your body, learning what it needs, and creating safety in your system. ⁠
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If this speaks to you, this is the work I guide my clients through every day. If you’re ready to explore your sexuality in a way that feels safe, embodied, and deeply yours—DM me or book a session (link in bio). Your pleasure is waiting.⁠
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#EroticEmbodiment #WindowOfTolerance #NervousSystemHealing #SomaticSexCoach #ReclaimYourDesire #PleasureIsPower #TraumaInformedSexuality #EmbodiedEroticism #SafePleasure #SexualHealing

WE ARE ALREADY FULL FOR THIS EVENT! Waitlist has been started!⁠
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Ready to Get a Little Fancy? Join Us for a Sexy Spring Formal! We’re shaking things up for the April YYC Social with something new and exciting! ⁠
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💃 Date: Thursday, April 17, 2025 ⁠
🏙️ Location: private space available exclusively to the lifestyle community in downtown Calgary. ⁠
🍷 Theme: Spring Formal – Think sexy, chic, and sultry. Dress up in your most flirty and fabulous spring attire and get ready to mingle in an upscale, intimate setting. ⁠
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This isn’t your average social—The Penthouse offers a sleek, sexy vibe perfect for couples and singles looking to connect, unwind, and enjoy a night filled with: ⁠
✨ Delicious munchies ⁠
🎵 Great music ⁠
📸 A fun photo booth area to capture those steamy moments ⁠
🍾 BYOB – Bring your favorite drinks to sip and savor! ⁠
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⚠️ Important Notes:⁠
- Space is EXTREMELY limited, so RSVP early to secure your spot. ⁠
- Guests must arrive before 8 PM as we’ll be escorting everyone up to the space. ⁠
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🔗 Reserve Your Spot Now: Link in bio or visit https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/event-details/april-social-yyc-spring-formal⁠
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This event is perfect for anyone looking for an elevated experience in a space where you can be yourself and connect with others in Calgary’s non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive communities. ⁠
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Don’t miss out on this one-of-a-kind evening!⁠
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For most of my life, I was taught to be the good girl—polite, agreeable, quiet, and easy to love. I was conditioned to shrink myself to avoid making others uncomfortable. To not be too much. Too loud. Too sexual. Too emotional. Too intense. ⁠
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And so, I became a people-pleaser—suppressing my desires, silencing my voice, and performing what I thought others wanted from me. I traded authenticity for approval, mistaking compliance for connection. ⁠
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But here’s what I’ve learned through my journey of embodiment and expanding my window of tolerance:⁠
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✨ Being a lot isn’t a flaw—it’s power. ⁠
✨ My intensity isn’t something to tone down—it’s a gift. ⁠
✨ Taking up space doesn’t make me difficult—it makes me whole. ⁠
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When I started doing the work to notice my nervous system, reclaim my desires, and expand my capacity to feel and express pleasure, I realized how much I was holding back. I stopped performing and started showing up fully—messy, wild, and unapologetically me. ⁠
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Now? I’m no longer interested in being “manageable” for others. I am: ⁠
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🔥 Passion personified, with no chill. ⁠
💥 A lot to handle—and proud of it. ⁠
❤️ Capable of holding space for messy, real, raw human experiences. ⁠
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Because when I gave myself permission to stop being the good girl (except when it comes to my partners saying this to me😛), I finally became my girl—the one who lives fiercely, loves deeply, and feels everything. ⁠
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And I’d rather be too much than not enough for the rest of my life. ⁠
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If you’re ready to break free from the good girl conditioning and fully embody your authentic, erotic self, DM me or book a session. Let’s explore what happens when you finally stop playing small. 💋✨ ⁠
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#GoodGirlNoMore #ReclaimYourPower #AuthenticSexuality #SomaticSexCoach #WindowOfTolerance #FeelItAll #TooMuchAndProud #OwnYourDesire #SexualEmpowerment #UnapologeticallyMe #PleasureIsYourBirthright

A Love Letter to the People Pleasers, the Over-Givers, and the Ones Who Struggle to Ask for What They Want...⁠
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I see you. The ones who might say yes when you really mean no. The ones who feel like you’re too much for wanting what you want—or not enough when you don’t feel the same as your partner. The ones who love deeply but sometimes lose themselves in the process. ⁠
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I’ve been there too. And it turns out, I wasn’t broken—I just needed a new way to understand touch, consent, and connection. ⁠
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That’s what the Wheel of Consent is all about. It’s not just about sex (though, let’s be real, it makes that better too). It’s about: ⁠
✨ Learning how to actually receive—without guilt, without obligation ⁠
✨ Feeling confident and clear in your boundaries without feeling like you’re rejecting someone ⁠
✨ Bringing more ease, play, and pleasure into your relationships (and your own body) ⁠
✨ Understanding why giving can feel draining sometimes—and how to change that ⁠
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This is the kind of work that shifts things. And Corinne and I can’t wait to guide you through it. ⁠
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If this resonates, or even just makes you go “hmmm, I think I need this”—come join us in Calgary, May 2-4. ⁠
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We’ll be diving deep, getting real, and I promise—you’ll never experience touch the same way again. ⁠
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📍 Details + registration: https://schoolofselfcare.teachable.com/p/wheel-of-consent-calgary-may2025⁠
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“I don’t even know what I want.”⁠
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I hear this all the time from women who are exhausted from meeting everyone else’s needs. Whether it’s in the bedroom, at work, or in everyday life—people-pleasing has left them feeling disconnected from their own desires. ⁠
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If you’ve ever hesitated to ask for what you actually want… ⁠
If saying “no” feels harder than it should… ⁠
If you’re tired of putting everyone else first and wondering, but what about me?⁠
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This workshop is for you. ⁠
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The Wheel of Consent isn’t just about touch—it’s about noticing, trusting, valuing, and communicating your desires and boundaries with clarity and ease. ⁠
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Join us in Calgary this May to explore what it means to ask for what you want, say no without guilt, and finally reconnect with your own pleasure. ⁠
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💛 May 2-4 | Calgary ⁠
💛 Hosted by myself & Corinne Diachuk⁠
💛 Learn more: https://schoolofselfcare.teachable.com/p/wheel-of-consent-calgary-may2025⁠
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PIC CREDS: @askmarcib @sexwithashley⁠
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Happy Birthday to my amazing, wonderful, and absolutely handsome husband! 🎉

Today, we’re not just celebrating another year of his life, but also the incredible person he is and the beautiful journey we’ve shared together. I am truly grateful that in this crazy journey called life, we found each other. Navigating this wild ride would be impossible without him by my side.

He’s not just my husband; he’s my best friend, my partner in all things, and my biggest supporter. Every day together is an adventure filled with laughter, love, and growth. The progress we’ve made in our relationship this past year has been remarkable. Even after nearly 12 years together, we still discover new things about each other, deepening our bond and enhancing our lives.

His love and encouragement inspire me to be my best self, and I am so thankful for his kindness and humor.

So here’s to him on his special day! May this year bring him as much joy and happiness as he brings to my life. I love you so so so much, now and forever. Cheers to many more adventures together! 🔥❤️

There is something undeniably powerful about a woman who fully embraces her sexuality—not for performance, not for validation, but for herself🔥 ⁠
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For so long, I played the role I thought I should play. I kept my sexuality contained, tamed, and digestible. But deep inside, there was something wilder. A pulse. A hunger. I was meant to unleash, to feel, to devour, to take up space in my own pleasure. ⁠
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✨ The dark feminine urge to go feral—because why should your pleasure be polite? ⁠
✨ The dark feminine urge to howl at the moon—because your desires are untamed, raw, and sacred. ⁠
✨ The dark feminine urge to watch yourself cum—because your pleasure is yours to witness, to worship, to own. ⁠
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Sexual empowerment isn’t about being palatable. It’s about being fully, unapologetically YOU—in all your softness, all your filth, all your tenderness, and all your hunger.⁠
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This is the work I do as a somatic sex coach—guiding women back into their bodies, their power, their unapologetic pleasure. If you’re ready to step into your full, untamed erotic self, my sessions are a space to explore, unravel, and reclaim. DM me or book a session (link in bio). Let’s set you free. 💋🔥 ⁠
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PIC CREDS: @justsaysk @thetrapwitch @spit_blossoms @drcatmeyer @fionamccoss @muchachafanzine⁠
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#EroticEmbodiment #DarkFeminine #SomaticSexCoach #SexualEmpowerment #WildWoman #UnleashYourDesires #RadicalSelfLove #PleasureIsYourBirthright #LiberationForAll

For years, I thought I was good at consent. I said yes when I felt like I should, I went along with things to keep the peace, and I convinced myself that my pleasure would just happen if I was doing the “right” things. Sound familiar? ⁠
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But deep down, I felt disconnected—from my own body, my own wants, and my own ability to truly receive. ⁠
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This is where the Wheel of Consent changed everything. ⁠
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💡 What if you could ask for what you really want—without guilt? ⁠
💡 What if saying no felt just as empowering as saying yes? ⁠
💡 What if you didn’t have to *give* to be worthy of receiving? ⁠
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This is the kind of clarity, ease, and freedom that the Wheel of Consent Workshop brings. And this May, Corinne Diachuk and I are hosting a weekend deep dive in Calgary to help you experience it for yourself. ⁠
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No more people-pleasing. No more guessing games. Just clear, embodied, joyful consent. And trust me—it changes EVERYTHING. ⁠
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Join us May 2-4. Details here: 🔗 Link in bio or https://schoolofselfcare.teachable.com/p/wheel-of-consent-calgary-may2025⁠
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#WheelOfConsent #PeoplePleaserRecovery #BoundariesMatter #ConsentIsSexy #EmbodiedConsent #CalgaryWorkshop #YYCEvents #YYCWorkshops #YYCThingsToDo #CalgaryWorkshops #YYCCommunity #CalgaryLife #YYCConnections #WheelOfConsentWorkshop #EmbodiedBoundaries #ConsentEducation #SomaticHealing #TraumaInformed #ConsciousTouch #AuthenticConnection #SelfAwareness #MindfulRelationships

For so much of my life, I didn’t even realize I was performing during sex. I thought I was doing what I was*supposed to do—making sure I looked sexy, sounded sexy, moved in a way that would be pleasing to my partner. I was so focused on being wanted that I never stopped to ask myself… ⁠
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💭 What do I actually want?⁠
💭 What does pleasure feel like in MY body?⁠
💭 What would it be like to receive instead of perform?⁠
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It wasn’t until I started approaching my sexuality through an embodied lens—tuning into my own sensations, desires, and emotions—that I realized how much I had been missing. Sex became something I could fully experience, not just something I did for someone else. I learned to drop the act and show up as I am—messy, expressive, powerful, and deeply in tune with my own pleasure. And the more I let myself be truly present, the more fulfilling and connected my experiences became. ⁠
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Now, this is the work I support others in. As a Somatic Sex Coach, I help women break free from performance mode and rediscover their erotic selves in a way that feels authentic, empowered, and deeply nourishing. Because you deserve to feel free, confident, and orgasmic in your sex life. ⁠
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Are you ready to explore what that could look like for you? Book a session with me and let’s dive in: Link in bio⁠
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AMAZING PIC CREDITS: @sexually_liberated⁠
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#ReclaimYourPleasure #SomaticSexCoach #AuthenticDesire #EmbodiedEroticism #SexBeyondPerformance #ConfidentSexuality #OrgasmicLiving #SexualEmpowerment #RadicalSelfAcceptance

What if your pleasure wasn’t something to *achieve* but something to embody? ⁠
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As an Erotic Embodiment Coach, I don’t just guide you—I create a space where you can feel, explore, notice, and practice how pleasure, eroticism, and safety live in your body. These sessions aren’t about “fixing” anything. They’re about becoming curious: ⁠
- How does your body respond to desire? ⁠
- Where does safety show up—or where does it feel absent? ⁠
- What happens when you give yourself permission to fully feel without judgment? ⁠
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Here’s a glimpse into what this looks like:⁠
Recently, a client came in feeling disconnected from their desire. They thought something was “wrong” with them because they couldn’t feel aroused. But as we explored together—exploring safety, attunement and staying inside their window of tolerance combined with gently tuning into sensations, breath, and emotions—they realized it wasn’t about “lack of desire.” It was about numbness rooted in old patterns of disconnection because they were typically outside their window of tolerance. Through embodied practices, they began to feel again—not just sexually, but in life. That’s the magic. ⁠
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I bring a trauma-informed approach, honoring your unique experiences with care, respect, and non-judgment. Whether you’re unpacking shame, navigating boundaries, or rediscovering your sensual self, this is your sanctuary. ⁠
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This is more than coaching. It’s a transformational experience—an invitation to meet yourself more deeply than you ever have before. ⁠
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Ready to explore?🌹 ⁠
sexedforthemodernbed.com/services⁠
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The other night, I asked a client, “When was the last time you and your partner did something just for fun?”⁠
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They paused. Thought about it. Then sighed. “Honestly… I don’t even remember.” ⁠
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And I get it. Between work, responsibilities, and the everything of life, it’s easy to slip into autopilot. You love each other, but the connection? It feels more like logistics than romance. ⁠
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That’s exactly why I created the 31 Days of Intimacy e-book—because bringing playfulness, closeness, and intimacy back shouldn’t feel like another thing on your to-do list. ⁠
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✨ One of my favorite challenges? Day 11: Secret Notes ✨ ⁠
Write your partner a short, heartfelt note and hide it somewhere unexpected—on their pillow, in their bag, taped to the bathroom mirror. ⁠
A single sentence can shift everything: “I love the way you make me laugh.” “I appreciate you more than you know.” “Can’t wait to kiss you later.”⁠
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Little moments like this? They add up. They remind us we’re not just coexisting—we’re choosing each other, every day. ⁠
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If you’re ready to bring more connection, fun, and warmth into your relationship, grab your copy today for just $14.99. I’ve done all the planning—you just get to enjoy the moments. 💖 ⁠
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📲 Link in bio or here: ⁠
https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/intimacy-challenge-ebook ⁠
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PIC CREDS: @officialsexology

Looking to meet and mingle with open-minded folks in Calgary’s*sex-positive, queer, and non-monogamous communities? This event is for you! ⁠
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Join us for an exciting evening of fast-paced connections, laughter, and great conversations. We’ll set up the space, assign you a number, and guide you through meeting 10-12 couples or singles in a fun, low-pressure way. James will MC and keep the energy high with engaging icebreaker topics. After the Speed Meet, stick around to mingle and connect even more! ⁠
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📅 Date: Thursday, March 27, 2025 ⁠
📍 Location: Downtown Calgary (exact address provided upon registration) ⁠
💰 Cover: $10/person⁠
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🎟️ LIMITED SPOTS AVAILABLE – RSVP NOW!⁠
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🩸 Community Giving: Bring an **unopened box of menstrual hygiene products** to support the We Are Maud Foundation and help fight period poverty. ⁠
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Whether you’re new to the scene or a familiar face, this event is a perfect way to expand your community, make new connections, and have a great time.⁠
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Tag a friend and register today!🥂💫⁠
LINK IN BIO!⁠
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Non-monogamy is a journey—one that can be both exciting and complex. It’s filled with opportunities for deep connection, personal growth, and expansive love. But let’s be real—it also comes with challenges. Questions. Doubts. Moments where you wonder, “Am I doing this right?”⁠
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For so long, I felt like I had to figure it all out on my own. Like many, I didn’t have people I could talk to about it, and I wasn’t sure where to turn when things felt messy or confusing. And while community support is invaluable, sometimes what we need most is a dedicated space to process, unpack, and explore our experiences without judgment.⁠
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That’s exactly why I offer trauma-informed non-monogamy coaching.⁠
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💡 Feeling overwhelmed by jealousy or insecurity? Let’s explore where it’s coming from and how to navigate it with more ease. ⁠
💡 Struggling to communicate your needs in a way that lands? We’ll practice tools to help you express yourself with confidence. ⁠
💡 Navigating a new relationship dynamic or shifting boundaries? You don’t have to figure it out alone. ⁠
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Whether you’re opening up for the first time, exploring as a solo non-monogamist, or deepening an existing relationship structure, I’m here to support you. ⁠
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If you’re curious about what coaching with me could look like, let’s connect. Visit the link in my bio!⁠
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PIC CREDS: @intimatematters ⁠
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Is it that your body doesn’t know how to orgasm, or is it that your body doesn’t feel safe letting go, receiving, and being vulnerable with someone else? 🤔⁠
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This question stopped me in my tracks because it resonates SO deeply with my own journey. Over the last 6 months, I’ve noticed a MASSIVE shift in my libido, desire, and sexuality—and it all started when I began ACTUALLY and FULLY receiving pleasure.⁠
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For so long, I was trapped in the social conditioning of giving access to my body for others’ pleasure and doing things to others for their pleasure. I was disconnected from my own ability to surrender, let go, and RECEIVE.⁠
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And honestly? It’s no wonder my sex drive and overall pleasure plummeted. I wasn’t prioritizing my needs or my boundaries. I was running on empty, depleted and resentful, with no space to explore what truly lit me up.⁠
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But here’s the thing I’ve learned (and am still learning): receiving pleasure is an act of deep self-love. It’s not selfish—it’s revolutionary.⁠
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When you allow yourself to receive—whether it’s help, compliments, gifts, or someone else focusing on your pleasure—it unlocks a whole new world of confidence, embodiment, and connection with your own boundaries and desires. It’s all connected.⁠
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I’ve felt this transformation firsthand, and it’s been life-changing. My sex drive, my energy, and my sense of self are the strongest they’ve been in YEARS because I finally gave myself permission to prioritize my own pleasure.⁠
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💌 I work 1:1 with women to help them heal their relationships with pleasure and desire, reconnect with their bodies, and create a deeper sense of embodiment and vitality.⁠
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This work is transformational—if this resonates with you, I’d love to support you on this journey. Send me a DM or click the link in my bio to learn more about how we can work together.⁠
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You are so worthy of receiving pleasure. 💖⁠
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PIC CREDITS: @sexually_liberated @outbeyondintimacy @mystical_kink⁠
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Let’s talk about the art of slow burn intimacy—the kind that lingers in your body long after the moment has passed.⁠
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Sex isn’t just about what you do; it’s about how you do it. The gaze that holds steady. The hands that ask permission through touch. The words that land like soft whispers against skin. Desire isn’t always loud—it can be in the quiet moments too. ⁠
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As a Somatic Sex Coach, I help people reconnect with these layers of intimacy: ⁠
✨ The thrill of asking, “What are you into?” and actually holding space for the answer. ⁠
✨ Turning your body into a love letter—where every kiss, every caress, writes a new chapter. ⁠
✨ The underrated magic of dry humping, slow kisses, thigh-gripping tension, and eye contact so intense it feels like undressing without touching. ⁠
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One of my clients recently shared how transformative it was to practice just eye contact and breathwork with their partner. No goal of sex, no pressure to perform—just presence. They left feeling more connected and turned on than they had in years. ⁠
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This is the work: rediscovering the erotic in the everyday. ⁠
Wanna explore? Link in bio🌹 ⁠
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PIC CREDITS: @drlauriemintz bellsco @sexpositive.memes⁠
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#SomaticSexCoach #EroticEmbodiment #PleasurePractice #IntimacyIsArt #SlowBurnSeduction #EyeContactMagic #ReclaimDesire #SensualConnection #SexualAwakening #PleasureIsPower

Only 2 Days to Go! Are You Ready to Roll? 🎳 ⁠
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The countdown is on—our February YYC Social is just around the corner! This event is all about connection, community, and having a blast together. ⁠
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We’ve been hosting these socials since 2017, and one thing we’ve learned is that it’s not about the activity—it’s about the people you meet, the conversations you have, and the friendships that start when you least expect them. ⁠
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So if you’ve been thinking, “Should I go?”—this is your sign to say yes to a night of fun, laughter, and maybe even a strike or two. 😉 ⁠
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📅 Date: Tuesday, February 20th ⁠
⏰ Time: 7:30 PM - 9:30 PM (bowling), with an after-social hangout⁠
💸 Cost: $25 per person (includes shoe rental) ⁠
⚡️ Spots are limited—RSVP now to secure yours! ⁠
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https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/event-details/february-social-yyc-10-pin-bowling⁠
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#YYCSocial #NonMonogamousYYC #PolyamoryYYC #SexPositiveYYC #QueerYYC #OpenMindedCommunity #BowlingNight #YYCEvents #MeetNewPeopleYYC #EthicalNonMonogamy

PIV sex isn’t the pinnacle of pleasure. 🚫🍆 It’s just one of many ways to connect, explore, and experience intimacy. If penetrative sex is your default or the “main event” every time, you might be missing out on a whole universe of play, creativity, and connection. ⁠
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Here are 7 ways to have sex beyond PIV:⁠
💋 Oral Sex – because mouths are magical. ⁠
🤲 Mutual Masturbation – a front-row seat to your partner’s pleasure. ⁠
✋ Manual Stimulation – hands aren’t just for holding. ⁠
🍑 Anal Play – more nerve endings, more possibilities. ⁠
⛓️ Kink Exploration – power, sensation, and mind games? Yes, please. ⁠
😚 Make-Out Sessions – don’t underestimate the art of a good kiss. ⁠
🌬️ Sensation Play – tease, tingle, and tantalize with textures and temperature. ⁠
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The point?⁠
Sex isn’t defined by penetration. It’s defined by connection, curiosity, and the willingness to explore. So why limit yourself? ⁠
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What’s your favorite way to play beyond PIV?👀👇 ⁠
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PIC CREDITS: @sexually_liberated did an awesome job with these!!!⁠
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#BeyondPIV #PleasureIsLimitless #SexualExploration #IntimacyRedefined #SomaticSexEd #PleasureActivist #ConsentCulture #BodyConnection #SexualWellness #PleasureIsThePoint

Gemini energy in full effect! 💨✨ Being a Gemini means I’m all about duality—curious and grounded, playful and deep, bold and introspective. My personality is a moresome of energy, ideas, and passion (and okay, maybe a touch of chaos too). ⁠
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As a somatic sex educator and pleasure guide, I feel like my Gemini nature shines brightest in the work I do—holding space for curiosity, exploring contrasts, and tapping into the full spectrum of what it means to be embodied and alive. Geminis get a lot of flak for being all over the place, but I think that’s our superpower: we adapt, we dive into the unknown, and we thrive in spaces of growth and exploration. ⁠
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So here’s a cheeky little meme dump that speaks to my vibe!⁠
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If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to tap into your own duality—your softness and your strength, your curiosity and your certainty—I’m here to guide you. Let’s explore it all together. 💋✨⁠
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#GeminiEnergy #SexualEmbodiment #DualityAndDepth #GeminiFeels #PleasureAndPlay #SexEducatorVibes #CuriousAndGrounded #SexExtraordinaire #SomaticWisdom

Do you still get jealous?⁠
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This is a question I hear all the time, and my answer is always the same: Yes, of course!⁠
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Jealousy is a natural human emotion, just like happiness or sadness. It doesn’t mean you’re “bad at non-monogamy” or “too insecure” for it. It’s not about whether you feel jealousy—it’s about what you do with it that really counts. ⁠
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Not long ago, James called me after lunch with a friend, completely buzzing about how adorable the waitress was. For a moment, I felt a twinge of jealousy sneak in. You know that little knot in your stomach, that familiar tightness? My first instinct was to get distant and withdrawn. ⁠
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But instead of letting it fester, I paused. I checked in with myself. I realized that under that jealousy, what I *really* wanted was a little validation. I’d just gotten my hair done and was feeling good, but James hadn’t seen me yet—how could he know? ⁠
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So instead of spiraling, I chose to respond. I let him know how I was feeling, and he responded with so much love and reassurance. (Cue instant relief.)⁠
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4 tips to help you navigate jealousy: ⁠
1️⃣ Get curious, not reactive. When jealousy pops up, ask yourself: What’s really going on here? Is it about needing validation or fear of losing someone?⁠
2️⃣ Ground yourself. Notice how jealousy feels in your body. Is it tightness in your chest? Take a few deep breaths to bring yourself back to the present.⁠
3️⃣ Communicate with intention. Share what’s coming up for you in a calm, non-blaming way. Example: “When you said ____, I noticed a feeling of jealousy come up. I think it’s because I’m needing ____. Could we talk about that?” ⁠
4️⃣ Reframe jealousy as a teacher. Instead of seeing it as a problem, view it as an opportunity for deeper self-awareness.⁠
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Send me a DM, or click the link in my bio to learn more about working together. ⁠
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#JealousyAsGrowth #NavigatingJealousy #EmotionalIntelligence #RelationshipsAndEmotions #ConsciousPartnership #NonMonogamyTools #JealousyExploration #MindfulLove #EmbraceYourFeelings #HealthyConnections #NonMonogamyCoach #EmotionalResilience #RadicalHonesty #SelfAwarenessJourney

12 years together—and somehow, it just keeps getting better... ⁠
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This video captures more than just a sensual moment with my husband—it’s a glimpse into the depth of connection we’ve cultivated over the years. What you’re seeing isn’t just chemistry; it’s the result of intentional exploration, growth, and embodied intimacy. ⁠
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At one point I felt so seen and loved, I cried ⁠
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The past 6 months have been transformative for both of us. We’ve been diving deep into our individual journeys, peeling back layers we didn’t even realize were there. And through that personal work, our relationship has bloomed in ways I never could’ve imagined. ⁠
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This is what I teach in my work as a Somatic Sex Coach:⁠
💫 How to stay curious about yourself and your partner, no matter how long you’ve been together. ⁠
💫 How embodied practices—like movement, breath, and touch—can reignite passion and deepen connection. ⁠
💫 How prioritizing your own pleasure and growth can ripple into every part of your relationship. ⁠
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It’s not about chasing the spark—it’s about creating the conditions for it to thrive. Here’s to love that evolves, bodies that remember, and relationships that feel like home. 🖤 ⁠
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Ready to explore the layers of your own desire and connection? Book a 1:1 session with me and let’s dive into the practices that can transform your relationship with yourself—and with others. Link in bio⁠
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#SomaticSexCoach #EmbodiedIntimacy #LongTermLove #SensualConnection #EroticEmbodiment #RelationshipGoals #PleasurePractice #CouplesGrowth #ConsciousPartnership #LoveInMotion

Stepping into the non-monogamous community for the first time can feel a little like stepping onto a bowling lane...⁠
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You’re excited but maybe a little nervous—wondering if you’ll find your people, if the vibe will be welcoming, if you’ll totally wipe out on your first try. (Spoiler: We’ve all been there.) ⁠
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That’s why YYC Monthly Social exist—to create a fun, relaxed, and pressure-free space for folks in the non-monogamous, queer, and sex-positive communities to connect, laugh, and just be without all the overwhelm of clubs or big events. ⁠
On February 20th, we’re taking the social to the lanes! 🎳⁠
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Whether you’re a seasoned bowler or just here for the vibes, this is the perfect chance to meet like-minded people in a casual, no-pressure environment. Come solo or with partners—either way, you’re guaranteed a night of fun, friendly faces, and maybe even a lucky strike! ⁠
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After bowling, we’re keeping the connections going at the venue's bar, so you can continue mingling over drinks and conversation. 🍻 ⁠
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📅 Date: Thursday, February 20th ⁠
⏰ Time: 7:30 PM - 9:30 PM (bowling), then hangout! ⁠
📍 Location: South Calgary⁠
💰 Cost: $25 per person (includes shoe rental) ⁠
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🚨 Space is limited! RSVP and secure your spot early! ⁠
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Because finding community shouldn’t feel like a high-stakes game—it should feel like fun. 🎳💜 ⁠
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Tag your bowling buddies and let’s roll!⁠
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https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/event-details/february-social-yyc-10-pin-bowling⁠
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#NonMonogamousYYC #PolyamoryYYC #EthicalNonMonogamy #SwingersYYC #QueerYYC #SexPositiveYYC #MeetNewPeople #OpenMindedConnections #YYCEvents

Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all, and breaking free from society’s boxes opens a world of possibilities. For so long, I believed monogamy was the only option—but discovering consensual non-monogamy has been life-changing. Now, I feel empowered to explore my pansexuality, indulge in my pleasure, and embrace my full self, feeling safe and supported along the way. It’s something I’m grateful for every day. ⁠
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Your relationship should reflect your desires, not anyone else’s expectations. ⁠
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Releasing the values we grew up with can be challenging, but the growth and self-acceptance that come from embracing non-traditional paths are worth it. ⁠
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If you’re curious about open relationships, polyamory, or exploring your sexual identity, know that there’s no “right” way to love—only the way that feels true to you. Embrace the freedom to love and live authentically!⁠
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As a Somatic Sex Educator, I’m here to support you on your journey to self-discovery, helping you release old beliefs, embrace your desires, and cultivate a relationship that truly reflects who you are.⁠
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Ready to explore? DM me or book a session. Let’s create a life and love that align with your authentic self! 💖⁠
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https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com⁠
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#AuthenticLove #RelationshipFreedom #EmbraceYourJourney #ConsensualNonMonogamy #PansexualPride #SexualEmpowerment #BreakFreeFromNorms #LiveYourTruth #MindfulRelationships #ExploreDesires #LoveWithoutLimits

I recently watched this marriage psychologist share 5 hard realities about relationships, and wow—it hit home. Things like: “good partners aren’t born that way”⁠
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These realities aren’t meant to scare us—they’re a reminder that relationships need care, attention, and intention to thrive. ⁠
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That’s exactly why I created the 31 Days of Intimacy e-book. It’s a roadmap for keeping your connection alive, no matter how busy life gets. ⁠
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Inside, you’ll find 31 simple exercises designed to: ⁠
✨ Reignite your spark. ⁠
💬 Improve communication. ⁠
💖 Build intimacy in everyday moments. ⁠
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One of my favorites? Day 15: Dance Party!⁠
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If you’re ready to reconnect with your partner and prioritize your relationship, this e-book is here to help. ⁠
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Perfect for couples at any stage—grab your copy for just $14.99! ⁠
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📲 Link in bio or here: ⁠
https://www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/intimacy-challenge-ebook ⁠
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#LongTermLove #RelationshipReality #31DaysOfIntimacy #RekindleYourSpark #IntentionalConnection

Consent is more than a buzzword—it’s the foundation of respect, safety, and true intimacy in every kind of relationship. Whether we’re navigating non-monogamy, friendships, or even professional settings, the principle of ASKING FIRST is a game changer. ⁠
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Let’s explore two paths of consent: ⁠
👉🏽 Path One: You ask for what you desire, honoring the other person’s boundaries and autonomy. ⁠
👉🏽 Path Two: You assume permission, moving forward until you’re told otherwise (or sometimes, not told at all). ⁠
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Which of these paths feels like it creates more trust and connection? For me, the answer has always been clear: Ask First.⁠
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Early in my journey, I didn’t always know how to set boundaries or voice my own needs. I often found myself either people-pleasing or staying silent when boundaries were crossed. It wasn’t until I discovered the profound power of embodied consent—something I learned through @thewheelofconsent—that my world shifted. ⁠
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Asking for consent isn’t about restriction; it’s about creating a space for play, exploration, and authenticity. It’s about giving others the choice to lean into their “yes” or their “no” without pressure or assumption. ⁠
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For example: ⁠
💬 Instead of assuming your partner wants to try something new in the bedroom, try asking, “Would you be open to exploring this together?” ⁠
💬 When navigating a lifestyle event or non-monogamous space, approach others with, “May I touch you?” or “Would you like to connect in this way?” ⁠
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As someone who thrives in spaces where ask first is a shared value, I also understand how challenging it can be to unlearn old habits or patterns. ⁠
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That’s why I offer Empowered Choice & Voice Coaching—to help others navigate this journey of transformation and embodied empowerment.⁠
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If this resonates with you, let’s connect! Link in bio to learn more.⁠

PIC CREDITS: @sexually_liberated
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#AskFirst #ConsentCulture #WheelOfConsent #EmpoweredBoundaries #NavigatingConnection #MindfulIntimacy #RespectfulRelationships #EmbodiedConsent #BoundaryBuilding #CreateSafety #ConsentMatters #ConnectionThroughRespect #HealingAndGrowth #AuthenticIntimacy

“After just one session, I felt a huge shift—not just mentally, but physically too.”⁠
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Hearing stories like this is why I do what I do. This client beautifully describes the transformational power of connecting the brain and body—something many of us aren’t taught how to do. ⁠
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When we learn to listen to our nervous system, acknowledge our emotions, and truly tune into our bodies, incredible shifts happen.⁠
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This work isn’t just about understanding—it’s about embodying. And as this client said, it’s amazing how much your body already knows and how much it can guide you when you slow down and listen. ⁠
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If you’re ready to experience this kind of transformation and build a deeper connection with yourself (and even your relationships), let’s work together. Your journey to healing and empowerment starts here.⁠
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💌 DM me to learn more or book your first session! ⁠
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www.sexedforthemodernbed.com/services⁠
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#SomaticHealing #BrainBodyConnection #SelfAwarenessJourney #RelationshipHealing #SomaticSexCoach #EmotionalWellness #NervousSystemHealing #TraumaInformedCare #SelfEmpowerment #HealingWithTaara #EmbodyYourPower

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Somatic Sex Coaching & Sexological Bodywork

Non Monogamy

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